Weird
Anyone who really knows me, knows how much I love my nieces and nephew. I would do anything possible to make them happy. One of the things I use to be really proud of, was the fact that they love and trust me. Now, I feel like it’s something to be ashamed of.
There are some people who think that it is weird that I talk to them online, or that I’m open with them about the things going on in their lives. To me that means those people believe my actions are suspicious, and that my actions are one comparable to someone like, oh say, a pedophile or predator. I also thought that I might be more defended than I was.
The thing that hurts my feelings the most, is the fact that my character is being questioned. Even by some people who I thought knew me and I thought would know that I would never, ever do something or influence their children to do something that they would not approve of.
I was very pleased, proud and happy when just a few days ago, one of my nieces who I never had the chance to be close with, told me how much she loved me. The ‘weird’ behavior is what made the new relationship with her possible. Now, I feel like I have no choice but to cut the string that tied us together.
That breaks my heart.
posted by shortensweet at Saturday, April 08, 2006
18 Comments:
Well the people who thought you're intentions are wrong. You should have a good relationship with your neices and nephew. I would be more offended if you did't have a good one with them. I know you to well. A woman defines success by how good her relationships are(women are from venus men are from mars)! I absolutly think that you are a great success!!!!
People talking trash about Brian, calling him a pedophile is why he quit girl scouts. The same of it is it cost the girls a great leader(he won leader of the year)it hurt him. He loved doing scouts. The moral of the story is don't let other people's opinions take away from things/people you love. You only have one person that has the right to judge and he knows everything.
10:55 AM
love to a child means so much differemt then it does to an adult. If a child told me that she loved me I would feel good about that. YOu should also amd anyone that has a different view of that kind of love is guilty of thinking things that are in their own life that may not be right or else they are misguided about what they hear on tv. kick those thoughts out of your head and enjoy your neices. They all love you .....
11:34 AM
oh and good luck on the job interview.....wouldnt that be great ? u who...ya who...oh crapola ...happy for ya
11:39 AM
oh and good luck on the job interview.....wouldnt that be great ? u who...ya who...oh crapola ...happy for ya
11:39 AM
oh and good luck on the job interview.....wouldnt that be great ? u who...ya who...oh crapola ...happy for ya
11:39 AM
excuse the repeats....had phone calls and got distracted....Is that a good enought excuse...remember I was born in 1932....keep that in mind....lol
11:53 AM
Maybe by saying it 3 times Grandma, will make it happen :)
As for the rest of it, thank you two for knowing me.
1:33 PM
I find it hard to believe that anyone who knows you would believe you had ulterior motives for wanting to be close to your neices and nephews. The kids would set them straight in a hurry if anyone had any questions. I think the original comment may have been misconstrued because everyone knows better. Go back to the source, that is my advice, and ask what they meant by their comment. You are a special, loving aunt who means a great deal to the family's kids, and for all the right reasons.
11:07 PM
Whoa, Jamie, don't cut the string, that is way over-reacting. Nobody thinks you're a pedophile or a predator, we were just told were giving someone 'wrong' advice. That turned out not to be true and we should have known better. For that we are truly sorry.
Your relationship with the kids is good and healthy and nobody ever said there was anything wrong with it. Well, one person thinks it's weird, okay, but don't let that stop you. There are several reasons why. First, she doesn't understand that you're only talking to the kids you know, she's thinks you're running some kind of middle-school advice coloumn, (I promise to set her straight next time I talk to her). Even with her misconception, she said she wasn't mad and didn't have a problem with it, only that she thought it was weird. I know that hurts your feelings, but don't let it, it's just one person's mistaken opinion. The truth is what matters, not an outsider's impression of the truth. And the truth is that you're a good role model for the girls, you're someone that they respect and look up to and want to share their feelings with - and that is all stuff you should be proud of, don't let anybody make you feel ashamed of it.
I didn't stick up for you when I should have and I'm sorry, I just didn't know what was going on and wanted to talk to you first. I'll take care of it now, though, I promise.
5:41 AM
I've learned the hard way that I need to have all of my facts absolutely straight before I disagree with her. (She should have been a lawyer - she's a gifted argue-er) That's probably why I didn't say anything at the time. Either way, I'm sorry.
5:47 AM
i think it is really good that the kids have someone comfortable to talk to. only one person thought it was wierd. this is actually my fault. i was the one that got upset about the advice that she said you said but you really didn't say ray didn't because he did know better. i certainly know how it feels not to be defended so i should have known better too. i am really sorry if i made you feel like you did something wrong.
7:15 AM
I love this family, they are honest and straightforward and willing to step up and get problems and misunderstandings out in the open and then do something about it.....thats the right way....so lets all get past his and be ourselves again..oK?
12:36 PM
and I think she is weird also....lol...in that she is not here in Tulsa where all the good men are..lol...(not really) only a few are...good . I do weird things....forget names of relatives ...? (only for a few min.)
12:41 PM
lol Grandma..that's not the only thing that makes you weird :)
R + C - I hope you can understand how this hurt me to the bone. Thank you for understanding, and not being mad at me for posting this. I was just really crushed.
I think that I'm getting her in trouble though, and I don't want to do that. Maybe I won't cut the string, but I'll trim it back a bit. I can't help wanting to talk to them and getting to know them. They are the closest thing I'll have to my own kids.
2:12 PM
give me some more examples sweetie...lol Ill try hard not to be that way...ok?
3:34 PM
Hey, could someone explain what all of this is about? Sheesh, I go away for one night and come back to major controversy in my family? Who said what about what and where? Me needs input.
4:02 PM
The original "wierd" comment was made by a person who's moral compass is about as reliable as those used as Navy flt. 19 droned around the Florida Keys for hours and eventually disappeared.
I think we can agree every kid should have a person who they can talk to and confide in. You happen to be that person for several reasons
1. You are at a transitional age, not perceived as a parent (giver of rules)
2.You are old enough to offer your experiences and intelligent advice without judgement or heavy handed seudo parenting.
3.That advice is tempered by wisdom that has allowed you to consider not only the childs need for connection and answers to lifes little questions but th parents and current situations as well.
4. Being that you are concidered more friend than adult parent type the opportunity exists for confidential and meaningful heart to hearts.
It is my hope that my kids continue talking with you rather than someone from school or worse another teen. But then again I have taken the time to know your heart and this provides the reasurance I desire. Our kids are going to talk to someone, thank God it's been you and not their Mom or some other morally bankrupt has-been.
4:34 PM
I am glad you all posted your reactions so the record could be set straight. In my heart I knew that no one thought there was anything wrong with the kids liking the short one so much. After all, she is nearer their height, and loves music...a perfect friend! Glad this is blowing over.
10:00 PM
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