I realized today...
...that I have absolutley no hope in love or relationships any more. I mean, some relationships and love do work for some people. I use to believe in happily ever after and that love can cure anything. That no matter what happens in a relationship, if you have love, it's the glue that keeps it together.
I'm really sad that I don't have the same outlook on relationships as I use to. I'm thinking this could be why I don't pursue the options that I have. I think why bother, I'm just either going to get hurt or hurt them in the long run.
Any ideas on how to rid myself of such rotten thoughts so I can try to find my prince charming?
posted by shortensweet at Sunday, August 20, 2006
13 Comments:
The way you are feeling is normal. The persons you have been involved with don't have solid characters. Love is only as good as the character of the person who loves. If they are liars, so is their love untrue. So its only natural your experiences will make you feel negative. Give yourself time to grieve. And keep telling yourself you deserve better, because you do and we all know it. Good love is possible, but not with people who don't want it and don't appreciate it when they get it.
2:37 AM
LOOK AROUND YOU AT THE RELATIONSHIPS THAT YOU KNOW HAVE ENDURED STRESS & HARDSHIPS & THINGS THAT DON'T SEEM TO RUN SMOOTHLY. YOU KNOW SOME: YOUR MOM & ME; YOUR MATERNAL GRANDPARENTS; TWO UNLIKELY PEOPLE YOUR OWN AGE WE KNOW; CERTAIN COUSINS; & OF COURSE YOUR OWN BROTHER & SISTER-IN-LAW. AMONG OTHERS. I KNOW HOW DISCOURAGING THE DATING SCENE CAN BE. I'D SORT OF GIVEN UP LOOKING & WAS WORKING & GOING TO COLLEGE, WHEN LO & BEHOLD, A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN APPAERED THAT WAS LIKE AN ANSWER TO A PRAYER -- AND WE LIKE THE SAME MUSIC (BG). REMEMBER THE FROG MANTRA & KNOW THAT YOUR 30S WILL BE THE BEST TIME OF YOUR LIFE. THAT'S WHEN YOUR MOM & I GOT TOGETHER. IT'S BEEN GREAT. WE'VE BEEN TOGETHER FOR OVER 16 YEARS & I LOOK FORWARD TO DECADES MORE. YOU, TOO, WILL HAVED THIS KIND OF FULFILLMENT. I SURE OF IT!
2:41 AM
I totally agree with your mom and hubbyman. I know that right now it hurts. Things will get better. You just need on making things good for you. You need to love youand be happy. The right man will notice that....and return love you. You don't need to activley look in fact love blindsides you. I think that is where the expression sweepme off my feet came from. Just be you. Remember you have so many people eho love you already. Things happen on God's time not ours.
11:29 AM
Jamie knock it off !
2:08 PM
Jamie:
Don't give up already. When you least expect it, someone special will come into your life and surprise you. You just need to be open to it, be patient and don't give up. Anyone worthy of you, is worth waiting for.
Thich Nhat Hanh reads: "Life can be found only in the present moment. The past is gone, the future is not yet here, and if we do not go back to ourselves in the present moment, we cannot be in touch with life."
Remember: Patience is the key to paradise.
10:42 AM
Oh, Jamie, I feel your pain. I lived the same misery for a long time. I, too, thought that the purity of my love and devotion would be the glue that held us together. The truth is you can't hold on to something that was never truly given. As you know, when you love someone you make the sacrifices necessary to be with that person. When someone doesn't reciprocate it means there is something fundamentally wrong. The error is not on your part, Jamie. You loved truly and with devotion. The failure was on the other end. Remember the worth of what you gave and let that reinforce the quality of your character and your value as a human being. I love you, sis! Don't give up! Once you meet the person you are meant to be with, the pain and anguish you went through in other relationships just fades away - and happiness remains.
4:45 PM
There is something else I just thought of. When a relationship goes bad, it is always a big temptation to think that if you were only more - - something, something, something - - that person would've loved you enough to make your dreams come true. That is so not true! It means you weren't meant to be with that person. Because when the right one does come along, he will see that you already are the perfect one...for him. Don't turn this back on yourself and think it was a lack on your part. It's just showing you he isn't the one. We have all been deceived, trust me! Now this weekend is coming up and we are going out so get your adorable little self ready for some fun because I am the DD!
1:39 AM
You could... uh... I don't know, I'm not good with love advice. (don't tell anybody - it's a little known secret - I only got so lucky because I was so lucky)
4:44 AM
shortensweet, i pray for you almost everday that God will bring a special someone in your life. He will. you are so beautiful and so much fun, when that special someone comes into your life you are going to knock him off his feet. listen to hubby, vee, bunny and rotten dad--oh wait, not rotten dad :).
love you!
8:31 PM
LOL ..Cindy !!....................
I dont no why eny one would want eny 1 (full time ) enyway .. kick back an enjoy your singel life .an save your money an bye a rubber dummy lol
12:35 AM
Thank you all very much (except Dad) for your kind words. I'm glad that I have you support and love. I wouldn't be able to get anywhere without out it. I think I just need to stop thinking about what I don't have and start being thankful for what I do.
And Dad, thanks for reminding me that having someone around all the time isn't always great. Thanks for hooking up my washer and dryer and for being the chair fairy, and for taking me out for lunch on the day I had my boo boo face on. You rock not so rotten dad.
12:03 AM
There is a famous medical study that shows that tested groups of people to find out how happy they were with their lives. At the bottom was unmarried men. Next were married women, then married men, and the overall happiest (and most likely to live the longest) group of people were unmarried women.
Some obvious conclusions they draw from that is that men are miserable without women, and happy with them. Women are happiest without a man, and more miserable when they get shackled down to one.
You don't need some guy making you miserable. Laura might not agree with me, but then she's an anomoly.
10:30 AM
Look to yourself first and the rest will follow... don't worry about men.
11:11 PM
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